You Can’t Turn A Hoe Into A Housewife

The propaganda that keeps women in line and easy to use.

The word whore means “hole” and it was derived from the ancient times of the Goddess. It was a word used to describe those who could create a portal to the universe.

You’ve heard the phrase. “You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife.” It’s been repeated in music, movies, barbershops, bedrooms, and Twitter threads like gospel. But have you ever stopped to ask where it came from, and who it actually benefits?

Because it’s not about truth. It’s about control.

This line didn’t come from some moral compass or wisdom. It came from systems that have always wanted to control women, especially women who know their power.

Whore: A woman who experiences her sexuality outside of the realms defined by men and the predominant attitude of society. In other words, whore can be defined as a woman who defines herself.

“Men” created this phrase to punish women who don’t play by their rules. Women who own their sexuality, who enjoy pleasure, who don’t beg for commitment. The kind of woman who knows her worth and won’t trade it in for performative respectability.

And let’s be honest. The phrase doesn’t actually stop men from sleeping with these women. It just gives them an excuse not to honor them after.

A “hoe” is just a label slapped onto women who don’t fit into the box. She could be celibate and still be called a hoe because she’s confident and won’t tolerate nonsense. Or she could be sexually liberated and comfortable in her skin, and that terrifies the kind of men who want a woman they can mold.

It has nothing to do with body count. It’s about control. If you can shame her, you can silence her. If you can guilt her, you can guide her...right where you want her.

The “hoe” trope exists to separate women into categories. You’re either the Madonna or the Whore. The Good Girl or the One Who Got Ran Through. It’s psychological warfare. Because once women start judging themselves and each other through those filters, they become easier to manipulate.

Some men want access without accountability. They want to “sample” liberated women but marry the ones they think will stay quiet and compliant. But the gag is, those women don’t win either. The housewives get cheated on just like the “hoes.” So who really benefits from this narrative? Not women.

This entire phrase is rooted in obedience. It’s telling you that unless you perform purity, you’re unworthy of love. That unless you erase your sensuality, you don’t deserve stability. That unless you shrink yourself into a submissive, docile role, you’ll never be “wife material.”

It’s a scam. Because the truth is, some of the most loyal, nurturing, high value women alive are the ones they try to label. And some of the most chaotic, emotionally unavailable women get rings because they played the game.

You don’t have to transform into someone else to be chosen. You don’t have to erase your past to be worthy of your future. You don’t have to abandon yourself to be loved.

You can be a woman who’s lived, explored, made mistakes, reclaimed her power, and STILL be a wife, a mother, a healer, a leader, and everything else they told you you couldn’t be.

They lied.

So the next time someone throws that phrase around, ask yourself: what are they really trying to say? What truth are they afraid of?

Because a woman who knows her worth, owns her body, sets her standards, and refuses to perform for validation, is not the problem. She’s the future.

And if that scares people, let it.

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🔗 Want more truth like this? I wrote an entire series breaking this down on: The Holy, Not Whore Series.

The “Holy, Not Whore” Series Pt. 1: Reclaiming The Sacred Goddess: How The Feminine Was Once Worshipped Through Sexuality

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